I didn’t feel like writing this month. So I didn’t.
What a way to start this post huh? I’ve been in a huge funk this past month. Unsure what I want the next chapter of my life to be, where I want to go and how I need to get there.
Overwhelming is an understatement. My anxiety and stress about my next step have left me ‘not feeling’ like doing a whole lot. So I did what I usually do in these situations, I googled.
The great Google gods bestowed upon me a YouTube video from a Ted talk done in San Francisco back in 2011 by the fabulous Mel Robbins. In her now viral and famous speech, she talks about the way we hide behind the word fine. We say to our friends “it’s fine, we can eat wherever” or “oh don’t worry, I’m totally fine in this dead-end job” or God forbid to our significant others “our relationship is fine, nothing needs to change”.
Not only do we hide behind this word that really doesn’t describe anything, we use it to justify hitting snooze on our lives. We get up, drive to work, find ways to kill time at our job, go home, eat the same foods, watch the same shows, go to bed only to wake up and do the same thing the next day. All the while saying everything is fine.
So what would it take for us to stop being fine, and start being happy, sad, confused, jealous, angry, joyful, hopeful, resentful, satisfied, really any other emotion than fine?
In her talk, Mel shares with us what it would take in simple terms. Force yourself to do something, anything that breaks your routine of fine.
According to Mel, we will NEVER feel like doing anything that will push us in the direction we need to be going. Her speech addresses the fact that to physically switch what we are doing, our body uses activation energy. This physical force (explained in a quick science video) is what we require to change our behaviors.
Essentially, we will never feel like going on a diet, applying for a better job or writing that book.
So how do we break our routines and make changes that actually help us move out of feeling fine and move towards feeling something?
Start forcing yourself to do the things you don’t feel like doing. As Mel profoundly says, “simple, but not easy”.
So here I am. Forcing myself to write this post.
I have written so many posts in my head over the last month. Created stories and ideas that never left my head. I was fine to just keep going, being creative in my comfortable space that exists solely between my own ears.
But today, I physically opened Microsoft word and started typing.
That was it.
My only change was that I FORCED myself to break my routine. Simple, definitely not easy.
In her TED presentation, Mel highlights the fact that the likelihood of you being born as the person you are, at this time, in this life is 1 in 400 trillion.
Hearing that was enough to convince me that I have to force myself to start writing again. Waking up each day knowing my odds of being born were 1 in 400 trillion means I have to make this life worth those odds.
So today, force yourself to do something you have always wanted. Get on a treadmill, eat a new food, apply for that job, write a blog post, but whatever it is, commit to doing that one thing today.
If we can collectively stop hitting the giant snooze button on our lives, we might be able to make our 1 in 400 trillion odds at life a bit more worthwhile.
P.S- If you’re looking for more inspiration from the fabulous Mel Robbins, check out her book “Stop Saying You’re Fine: The No BS Guide to Getting What You Want”!